There is an Asian saying that goes: “he who does not know how to look back where he is coming from will never get to his destination”. Simply put, moving overseas may seem like a fresh start in life, but we must be careful never to truly forget our origins. Some people, when they go overseas, lose their identities. They easily become assimilated into the culture of their new home. Generally, this is not such a bad thing. However, if you forget your heritage, then you might end up making the same mistakes that you did in the past. Remembering your origins is like reviewing all the lessons that you have learned within the great classroom of life.
Before you make a decision concerning moving overseas, there are three voices you should listen to:
a) Your initial reaction – this, of course, is the reaction that you get before you take the time to truly consider the dilemma. Your initial reaction shows your instinctive decision. Many people have been saved by making decisions based on instinct. However, before you decide based on this, you should also consider other voices.
b) The opinion of others – after you have heard what you want, take the time to listen to what others think. This can be very helpful in assessing the situation as there may be some things which you fail to see from your perspective. This is especially important if other people will be affected by your moving overseas.
c) What needs to be done – your initial reaction constitutes what you want to do. After you have assessed the situation, ask yourself what needs to be done. Take the opinion of others and the demands of the current situation and see what you really need to do.
Some people might say that these things are contradicting. There’s really nothing that one can do about that. What you need to do is to find the heart of the contradiction. The decision regarding moving overseas is hard enough without having multiple voices inside your head. If you find the heart of the contradiction, however, you will learn that there is one voice which contains all of these opinions. And you would be able to make the right decision.
Think of moving overseas as a whole new adventure. Think of it as a new chapter in your life waiting to be written. You should always remember that life is just one big adventure and there are times when you have to take risks to enjoy it. You should also remember that no one can make you do anything that you truly do not want to do. In the end, the decision to move overseas will still be yours to make.